Thanks everyone for playing. This was a lot of fun. So without further adieu …
Heather asked …
1.) What is the hardest you have ever cried and why?
I can remember 3 times I have cried and they all finish in a tie.
After my parents split up I was 18 and had a huge weight to keep things going at home alone with my mom. My sisters were of no help. I remember being in my friends house in their bathroom waiting for them to get ready to go and I lost it. It was uncontrollable. It was so bad a friend took me to see his dad who was a psychiatrist. It helped calm me down, but it was just my breaking point. I had no idea why I was crying or anything else. It just all started and didn’t stop for awhile.
Time two was when I broke up with a girl. Man I REALLY liked her and it just wasn’t mutual and it hurt a lot.
The third time was right after I got married. My grandmother, Nana, died. I had held it together for a while, but my wife and I were in the kitchen and it all hit me. It lasted about 5 minutes and then it was over. I realized I would never see or hear my Nana again. Still brings a tear to my eyes
2.) What is one good thing you learned from your father?
How not to be a father. Whenever I have a parenting issue, I think what he would do and then do the opposite. I talk to my kids as much as they will let me and I try to fill them in on how the world works. How much of it they retain is still up for grabs.
3.) What’s the best practical joke you ever pulled or had pulled on you?
The best one I played was on my wife. When we first got married I took my step-daughter’s Barbies ( ya, two of them ) and posed them in a sexual position with a G.I. Joe from my step-son and left a note saying, “We should try this tonight.”
K played a good one on me in college. He bought a playboy, Southwest Conference College Edition ( that should date me ), and signed the names of the girls from his university. I totally bought into it that he knew these girls and they autographed it for him.
Lee Ann asked …
1. Have you ever intentionally hurt someone to gain something for yourself?
Who hasn’t? Ok, maybe not everyone. Ya, I have. After my ex-fiance cheated on me and told me we broke up but we kept dating to try and see if we could work it out. I had a little one-night thing with another woman and that was the night before I had a little thing with the ex. I think I told the unknown woman I was single to get her in bed.
2. Have you ever done anything silly when you thought no one was watching, but you get caught ~ if yes, what?
That happens all the time. I have no shame. I can remember a time in 9th grade I danced to “Dancing With Myself” all by … myself.
3. Have you ever swam naked?
Yep! Very uninhibiting!
Emily asked …
1. What is your most embarrassing moment?
Hmmmm … pants falling down in a parade. See this post – Bark At The Moon.
2. What characteristic do you love the most about your wife?
There are a lot to list and love.
– Her strength
– Her committment and faith in God
– Raising 2, now 3 kids like a champ
– Keeping our house a really great home
– Keeping me in line
– Her committment to her health and figure (her hot bod!)
– Her incredible laugh I only hear 3-4 times a year
3. After some of these questions do you still “like the concept”?
LOVE IT!!!
BeckEye asked …
1. Do you get annoyed if people spell your name with two “f”s?
Absolutely not. My last name is horrendous to spell. Right after we got married my wife’s school spelled her new last name wrong in the yearbook. My response was, “Welcome to the family.” My grandfather didn’t spell his name the same way the rest of us do. I know who I am despite how people spell my name.
2. Do you sing in the shower?
Absolutely!
3. Beatles or Rolling Stones?
When I’m a good boy Beatles, but when I feel a little naughty I’m a “Paint it Black”, “Hey You, Get Off Of My Cloud,” “Mother’s Little Helper,” “Jumpin’s Jack Flash,” et. al. fan. A is a big Stones Fan. I’m a huge Beatles fan. I sing “All My Lovin'” sometimes to little a before she goes to sleep. You know, “Close your eyes and I’ll kiss you, tomorrow I’ll miss you.” I think “in music” sometimes with lyrics becoming part of my thoughts – a totally different post about my mind.
Jenn asked …
Wow, these ladies before me are good! I bet you’re thinking “what’d I get myself into.”
1. What kind of music do you listen to?
These ladies are good aren’t they?
Narrowing this down is like condensing the Library of Congress. It’s easier to say what I don’t like.
RAP!!!
Rap isn’t music it’s autioneering with a beat.
I love Jazz (Bill Charlap, Harry Connick Jr., Charlie Parker, be-bop jazz)
Swing and Big Band – a totally lost art
Rush
Some country – it’s a lot of soft rock these days
Beatles, Stones
80’s hair bands.
2. Are you afraid to die?
Absolutely not. I know what will happen to me.
I am afraid of dying alone. Like old and alone not accidental death and dismemberment alone.
I read about a lot of people who die these horrid deaths – sat on by elephant, shot accidetally and bleeding to death, or even anything worse. It’s frightening. Would you want to know you were going to die by falling from a ferris wheel?
You sit there with God at the end and say, “That’s it? You took me out in a clown car accident?” You know, I’m glad I don’t know how I’m going to die. If I had my druthers it would be to go quietly in my sleep. Who doesn’t? Barring that, I want to go out with those I love around me.
I did get a glimpse into what it will sound like though. One afternoon I was putting my daughter down for a nap and she screamed, “DADDDDDDDDDDY!” And it hit me that’s what she would sound like when I pass. It was a chiller.
I fear being alone when I die with no one around to wish me good-bye or say good-bye to.
3. What’s your favorite color! =D
Cobalt Blue. My grandmother had a little cobalt blue pitcher in her china cabinet and it’s still one of the most beautiful things I have ever seen.
K asked …
1. If you could have a direct conversation (two way) with God, what would be your topic of conversation?
During the introductions I want to get straight if I’m in the Lamb’s Book of Life, otherwise I need to take care of some business first. Second, I want to discuss dinasaurs, who really shot Kennedy and aliens. We would move on to a request to see my relatives all the way back quite a way. I think it would be very interesting to see and hear these people. We’d finish up with a coach’s clicker of choices I’ve made and the choice I should have made and see what the results could have been.
2. What do you see as your single-most important legacy?
Love. Sounds cheesy doesn’t it? I want people to see love through how I taught my daughter things and how I loved. Ya know that’s hard to say because there are a lot of people who will pull out a book of my crap and say, “Ya, but you did this and that.” I don’t deny that. But I want people to look at how my daughter and wife cry at my funeral and see I was someone that had the capacity to make a life or two somewhat better and that vehicle is love. Love covers a multitude of sin.
3. For an unlimited supply of money, would you have an irreversible sex change?
Nope. I would always know I was a man. Not worth it.
~*Stephanie*~ asked …
WOW I have always wanted to play this but, I am so scared ..lol
1~ Have you ever been busted looking at porn? If so what was the out come?
Yes, and not good. But also yes and indifferent.
Porn is very powerful and is an interesting subject in itself to me. I think I posed about it here a while ago.
Some people really struggle with this and it’s a hard addiction to break. Imagine yourself an addict and drive down the street counting the billboards with seductive women or sexual inuendos on them or listen to the radio or tv ads with the same sexaul message. It’s difficult to fight that and be a man these days.
2~ Do you pay attention to what kinda hair style/ cut your wife has?
Absolutely, and I read that on your site about your husband didn’t notice. Such a shame. My wife asks me a lot about what she thinks of her hair. I’m fortunate that she keeps a classic style and only varies the color between high-lights and original color. I like her hair a lot. It’s soft and dark.
3~ What is your biggest regret?
A series of mistakes I made in my early twenties.
Saurkraut asked …
OK, I’ll play too. You’re going to end up with so many questions, it will take a month of answers!
1. What one thing really annoys you about your wife that you’ve never shared with her? Or, what negative observation have you had about her that you’ve never disclosed?
Now this is a dilema isn’t it? I weigh my answer with all the good things she does for me and with me and how does my petty answer compare …
in all honesty it’s how little she jokes and kids.
I really think she spent so long having to live under a jack-booted-thug that laughing and kidding were a luxury she gave up. As such, I’m the “laughing card” in her life. If I can make her laugh, then I have brought a necessity back to her life.
2. What constitutes cheating?
For a man? Hmmm, I think you’ll get different answers. Women will probably say even talking a lot or having feelings for someone could be cheating. By the book, you have to say physical contact that is inappropriate.
3. Have you ever cheated on anyone?
Yes, see above.
I ask these because I’ve so often wondered what the men in my life have thought…
I think this is a personal, moral decision more than male or female question. I’ve dated women who have had sex with other guys while we were dating and didn’t think it was cheating. I’ve dated women who think if I ever spoke to another woman it was cheating. I don’t believe in a “personal standard” because a “moving standard” is no standard at all. There has to be one standard for it to be consistent. And it goes to your heart. If you cheat in your heart it’s cheating.
Fred asked …
Only two:
1. What one decision do you regret making?
Not investing early in life and using credit too. I’ve worked out of the credit, but the investing has passed me by.
Career wise, not joining the Secret Service when I had the chance. Can you imagine the stories you could tell?
2. What path in life did you take, then wonder years later if it was the right choice?
(Looking at the two, one answer might work for both questions.)
When I was 17 my parents took me to a research center that studies aptitudes. It was next door to Dr. Phil believe it or not and it was way before Phil McGraw was Dr. Phil. They tested me for what I would be mosted suited for in a career. They told me I could be a brain surgeon or a lawyer. I’ve always wondered if I missed the boat not being some kind of surgeon. Even a plastic surgeon. I love the concept of Doctors Without Borders and I like science and helping people. Maybe geneticist.
I wonder what life would have been like.
td3k asked …
1. Would you rather support a welfare system that truly helps the needy but also helps the lazy; or would you rather shut down the welfare system to cut out the lazy but also cut out the needy?
This is a really good question. It’s forcing me to choose between all or none. My answer is liberal for a Republican. I support a system that helps those that help themselves.
I’ll elaborate. A year ago I left my job. I had one month of pay and a lot of highly technical skills and 0 prospects. I applied for some form of welfare but didn’t get it. I’m glad I didn’t.
What I learned was that those who want to get out of their situation do. Those who don’t, won’t. Social welfare is a concept that has gotten madly out of control. It should have ended after World War II. It was never intended to support society or segments of society. I like the concept of a “forced savings” or a social welfare for the elderly and those below the poverty line.
2. Do you ever question your faith and what you believe, or do you just accept it without question?
If I didn’t question my faith then I would never know the truth. There are some things that I know I have to accept at face value – don’t lie, don’t murder, don’t steal, your basic 10 commandments stuff. But there is always something that falls in the cracks or in the gray area. Those are the areas I have to question my faith and stretch it out and search scripture to find the truth. Jesus said, “The truth will set you free.” And it does.
3. If you were to become financially destitute and homeless for reasons beyond your control, would you change your political viewpoints and your expectations of the government?
Probably not. I don’t believe the govenment needs to make poor people rich. There are TONS of programs out there to help people get out of poverty and better their lives. But each of them can become an addiction in themselves. A lot fo millionaires are people who were destitute at some point in time and had nothing and made something. There is so much of wealth that is personal choice. Hard work and effort do not guarantee success, but they help open the doors to success. There was a scripture I heard in a sermon a couple of years ago that really stuck and I don’t know if I can find it today, but it basically said (paraphrased) “Wealth comes from hard work and patience.” It was in Proverbs I think.
For example, the crack dealer in South Dallas can make tons of money selling crack and live in poverty. He could just as easily take that money convert it into investments, educate himself and start a legitimate business and make more money and turn around and help his neighborhood. But he doesn’t.
Or the topless dancer that makes 6 figures a year. She could do the same thing and convert that money into a business helping retiring dancers find jobs after their careers are over. But does she?
The ethical dilema for every web administrator is the lure of easy money hosting porn. Did you know it’s possible to make $30K a month with one of these sites? But the guilt of doing it would kill me.
So much of our financial decisions are personal. The governement is not in business to support people financially, there’s too much risk that interdepence will happen.
hulabelly asked …
Super funfun!! okay!
1. Do you hear your own voice in your thoughts or someone elses?
I hear my own. Imagine an old radio with a dial and you turn the dial and hear the stations as they pass by. That’s what the inside of my head sounds like. I also have thoughts go by so fast I can’t express them in words fast enough. Starting to get interesting, huh? And they don’t stop. It’s a wonder I sleep at night. I wish I could hear other’s thoughts. THAT would be interesting!
2. what is the greatest number of times you’ve used a cereal bowl before washing it?
Probably 3 times in one sitting. Then I would just rinse it out in the sink. You can only eat so much cereal at a sitting.
3. Do you have any Oreos and if so, can I have some?
No, I don’t like Oreos. They are too bitter and I’m too lazy to go to all that work for one lick of creme filling that tastes like sugared up Crisco. Sorry, Nutter Butters … that’s a different story! If you like I’ll send you a package of Oreos. If you are nice, I just might!
Anonymous asked …
Small, Medium or Large?
Anonymous … super size
Jen asked …
1) When is the last time you told a lie?
If you have younger kids you lie a lot or rather stretch things. I think one of the last times she wanted to get a drink from the gas station. I told her we already had a drink and we would get one another time.
2) What is the one secret thing you have the most guilt over?
A job related indiscretion. I carry it to this day and it’s painful.
3) When your wife commented she wasnt happy with some of the changes in her body, but said she would rather spend the money on a family vacation…Why didnt you insist she put herself first for a change?
I didn’t insist because I know my wife and that’s what she meant. If she had hinted she really wanted to look into something or the stories became more frequent, then I would have pursued it. But knowing her I know that she isn’t about image or spending money on stuff that could be used for other things. Given the choice of plastic surgery or a trip to New York to see a Broadway show, she’ll choose NY every time. And if Momma ain’t happy, ain’t no one happy.
Pieces of Me asked …
1. Do you like living in Texas? If not where would you like to live
It’s the only state I’ve ever lived in so I know nothing different. And I LOVE it. Especially the western part of the state.
I have visited many states and I do like Texas the best. If I couldn’t live in Texas I would probably like to live in Tennessee or Georgia. They are a lot like Texas from what I have seen and I can’t move too far up north and I don’t want to move closer to the coast – too hot. California wouldn’t be so bad if it wasn’t so expensive and liberal.
2. Do you think you are a flirt?
Ya, and I’ve been told that a lot mostly from my wife. However, I don’t see my interest in other people as flirting, but not everyone takes it that way. I’m much more reserved with people since I met and married my wife. I still like a good honest conversation, but I’m much more aware of who I talk to and what I say. Some people call it flirting, some people call it being friendly. You decide.
3. Is your real name Jefrey?? Or something like that?
My “real” first name is Jeffrey – two “f’s”.
I’ll tell the story since there seems to be some interest. My sophmore year in high school I got very frustrated not being able to make 2 “f’s” that looked alike when I wrote my name. So I just erased one and left it that way. My dad said it was goofy and my mom didn’t care. Nothing legal had to change and, over time, it just stuck. Nothing special or dramatic, just couldn’t make 2 “f’s” look alike.
LOL sorry my questions aren’t too good…oh well!! BTW I love your turkey cake and I so would have bought it LOL!! 😉
That turkey cake was really fun to make. I want to try a whole thanksgiving dinner of cake. Wouldn’t that be too fun?
My hippie is coming out. I’ll try not to let him out too long. I like trees but I don’t want to hug them. The song Bells of Christmas is an old tune actually a poem penned by H.W. Longfellow in 1864. It has been covered, like many songs, by lots of people, even Burle Ives. This arrangement struck me on my way to San Angelo, Texas to see my grandmother for the last time. It was a dark time for me and this song brought tears to my eyes, but is an outstanding little-known song of hope for the Christmas season.
Edge Of The Blade 